Finding time to date again after a divorce, separation or death of a loved one is not easy, especially if you are a working mum. You are afraid of how your kid(s) are going to react and you are certainly not sure of how to break the news. Good news, here are tips to help you get started:
1. Be Absolutely Sure That You Are Ready To Date Again
Do not enter the dating scene because you want to find someone to fill up a void in your life. The truth is, dating may not necessarily be what you are looking for or what you need to feel whole again. It doesn’t matter how long you have been single, you need to be absolutely sure that you are ready.
2. Create Time
The fact that you are working doesn’t mean that you can’t find time to date. Finding the right time might seem impossible but it is possible. The fact that you always find time for other things, you can always create time for yourself. Remember, if you are not happy your kid(s) will notice or feel it. Your happiness matters, and that’s why you should always have some time for yourself.
3. Consider Single Parent Dating Apps
Thanks to the advancement of technology, nowadays you can download a single parent dating app at the comfort of your couch and start your dating journey again. Today, smart phones have become a necessity and many people rely on their phones for almost everything. What’s more, you are now older and wiser, so it will be easier for you to vet all your potential suitors and find the one that is meant for you.
4. Take It Slow
If you want to find the right guy to date and possible marry someday, it’s very important that you take things slow. Remember, you are a single mum, not just any lady. You already have your kid(s) and responsibilities, so there is no reason why you should move so fast. The most important things here are to meet new people, make new friends, and have fun.
5. Do Not Have Sex Until You Are Ready
Chances are that it might be a while since you’ve been intimate with another person, but do not let your emotions get ahead of you. You need to be absolutely sure that you are ready. The truth is, you don’t know if he is the right guy for you and once you are intimate with him, you may become attached to him emotionally.
6. Time to Tell Your Kid(s) About Your New Relationship?
It feels good to love and be loved again, but you should wait for the right time to tell your kid(s) about your new relationship. You need to make sure that you have a future with this guy before you tell your kid(s) anything.
The Bottom Line
It is important to understand that things have changed since you were single before you had your children. You too have changed, you have responsibilities now and you are probably wiser than you were. In this regard, it’s in your best interest to take things slow. Make sure that this time you are right about the person that you choose to spend your precious time with.